Monthly Archives: June 2012

A Sad Farewell

Rudy

For the past several days, I’ve struggled to write. It seems I’ve lost my creativity, my motivation, my concentration. For those of who are subjected to my blog posts and Facebook statuses, you know I committed to taking the Camp NaNoWriMo challenge, meaning I pledged to write 50,000 words between June 1st and June 30th. When I went to bed last Monday night, I was ahead of my daily word count goal, weighing in at an impressive 30,000 words.

Unfortunately, when I went to bed Monday night, my dog, Rudy, who had been ailing for a while, made a turn for the worse. By Tuesday morning, he’d been up all night, unable to find comfort in any position—and I’d been up all night with him. On Tuesday evening, my family and I made the decision that it was time to let Rudy go, and we put him in the car for his final trip to the vet.

I awoke Wednesday morning, my face swollen from the many tears I shed during the previous night. I wrote this Haiku to express a fraction of my pain:

I open my eyes

And a bleak, sad day unfolds

I miss you, Rudy

These few, brief words do not begin to describe the pain I feel, or how much my family will miss him. Seventeen syllables cannot begin express the guilt I feel at that final betrayal—the moment I put him in the car and told him we were going for a ride. Had Rudy passed in his sleep, my sadness would have been just as acute, but I would have been spared the guilt and shame of making the decision to end his life.

Last Tuesday wasn’t the first time I was faced with the decision of whether or not to put my friend to sleep. Someone once told me I’d know when it was time. I’m still consumed with guilt and doubt, but my reasons for wanting to keep him around were selfish: I want him. I need him. I love him. I miss him. If I take the “I” out of the equation, my contemplation paints a different picture—a truer picture. He was in almost constant pain. He was suffering. He could hardly walk. He could no longer find comfort. His bad moments outnumbered the good. The pained expression on his little face implored us to make the pain go away.

Rudy’s passing has affected our lives in many ways, but his life—our lives together—affected us more. Our time together was precious, and though I hope I never have to relive the pain of saying goodbye to a beloved pet, I know I’ll do it all over again, because the joy an animal companion brings to his family is immeasurable.

I love you and miss you, Rudy, until we meet again.

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The Comfort of Predictability

I’m reading a romance novel. Not a series. Not a paranormal romance. Just a good old-fashioned boy-meets-girl romance novel. There is no question about how the book will end. The guy and the gal will certainly end up together and have a happily-ever-after ending. So, if I knew how the book would end before I ever started reading it, then why read it at all?

Because there is comfort in predictability.

Knowing how the book will ultimately end doesn’t diminish the joy of reading it. Though straight-forward contemporary romance novels aren’t usually my first choice in reading material, I can still appreciate the books and the authors who write them.

I like predictability. I like knowing the main characters will find happiness. I like knowing both main characters will survive, that the hero won’t find the heroine’s severed head, thus ending their chances at happiness. I like knowing everything will work out for the best.

Not to say there’s no tension at all—there is. Instead of non-stop action and danger to drive the story forward, in a romance novel the tension is a result of the two main characters’ denial of their feelings for one another. And, there are usually other storylines in play, adding to the obstacles the star-crossed lovers face, or perhaps making it more difficult for either the hero or heroine to commit to the relationship.

What matters in a romance novel is the journey. How do the hero and heroine settle their differences? How do they overcome their obstacles, silence naysayers, thwart the evil plans constructed by those who would sabotage their tentative relationship? When does the first kiss occur? And what is it about each other they find so irresistible that they are willing to do anything to be together?

Romance novels get a bad rap and one of the reasons they get ragged on is because they are so predictable. Critics say the plots are weak, the characters unrealistic, the happily-ever-after endings implausible. I argue that romance novels are quite realistic. In fact, I believe the predictability of the ending is a parallel for life.

Life is predictable: we are all born and we all die. We all share the same beginning, and the same ending. How we live is the variable. Like a romance novel, it’s the journey that counts.

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Top Ten Signs You’re Running Out of Blog Topics

1. At your day job, you’ve placed a Blog Topic Suggestion Box in your cubicle.

2. You blog about blogging  (http://www.blog.triciadrammeh.com/2012/04/all-cool-kids-are-doing-it-so-why-cant.html)3. You make fun of your own website, blog, and Facebook page just to have something to blog about (http://www.blog.triciadrammeh.com/2012/06/ten-deadly-sins-of-building-your-author.html)

4. You begin offering vampire dating tips  (http://www.blog.triciadrammeh.com/2012/04/vampire-dating-your-boyfriend-is.html)

5. You’re working on a undead fashion show extravaganza for your next post (stay tuned)

6. You include a Sponge Bob video in your post to give it some flair. (http://www.blog.triciadrammeh.com/2012/06/gather-round-campfire_04.html)

7. You post an in depth interview with your dog (He’s still filling out the questionnaire)8. Blogger and WordPress send you hate mail.

9. Your ex-blog followers have started a support group.
10. You post a top ten list of signs you’re running out of blog topics
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The Ten Deadly Sins of Building Your Author Platform

It stands to reason that I’ve been a reader far longer than I’ve been a writer. I began writing two years ago at the age of thirty-nine, so I have way more experience as a consumer of books than I do as a manufacturer. So today, I’d like to approach my writer friends, not as a fellow author, but as a reader with numerous years of experience.

We’re going to discuss platforms and social media as it pertains to attracting readership. Just like me, I’m sure you’ve read loads of articles written by authors experienced in the art of social media, or blogs written by savvy social media consultants interested in gaining new customers.

What makes this article different? I’m lending my opinion as a READER. I do not claim to be an expert at all. As a matter of fact, I confess to committing some of the same sins I’ll be listing below. I’m a self-proclaimed social media slacker, but don’t let this deter you from taking my advice, because as a READER, I know what I look for in a blog or an author’s website. And, to all of you authors who might be squirming in your seats right now, wondering if I’ll name names or site examples, the answer is YES, but I’m only calling myself on the carpet today, so settle back, relax, and make a solemn vow never to commit any of these Social Media and Website Sins ever again:

Sin #1 The Sporadic Blogger—Here today, gone tomorrow, the sporadic blogger blogs twelve times a day at first because blogging is her cool new toy. But, like all children, she eventually tires of her new plaything, or perhaps she just runs out of things to say. Maybe she’s too busy to blog. Whatever the case may be, the sporadic blogger runs the risk of either frightening off readers due to the crushing burden of non-stop emails they’re receiving letting them know their ex-favorite author has blogged yet again, or they risk losing potential readers because their blog has been abandoned for so long, the reader thinks the author has either lost her password, or decided to give up writing to attend clown school.

Solution: Space out your blogs. Plan them ahead of time. If you suddenly find yourself extra wordy, write your blogs, but save them for a period of drought.

Sin #2 The Stagnant Site—You had a pretty good site—two years ago. Since your last update, you’ve moved twice, changed your contact information, switched publishers, and completed three new novels. All your links are broken and no one can get in touch with you. Potential readers believe you are dead, because what other reason would prevent you from updating your website for two years? If I visit your site and I see something that says, “My new novel is scheduled for release in August 2009,” I’m going to assume you’re either lazy or dead. I won’t be back.

Solution: Review your site every once in a while and update as needed.

Sin #3 Facebook Fermentation—I am so, so guilty of this. You started that cool Facebook page and bullied some of your friends to ‘like’ it. Now what? Social media is only useful if you’re social. In other words, be sure to use your Facebook page as a way to reach potential readers.

Solution: Update it often. Make it your own, whether that’s by adding excerpts of your novels every Wednesday, or by recommending other books in similar genre. Be social. (Yeah, I know: takes a slacker to know a slacker.)

Sin #4 The Tireless Tweeter—It took a while for you to warm up to Twitter, but now that you have…watch out followers!!! You tweet about everything, dozens of times a day. Or, worse, you tweet links all day long. Links to your books. Links to other books. Links to articles. Links to everything. Your day is one, long, endless tweet. It’s okay to send out a few links here and there, but you should be using Twitter to foster relationships with potential readers, not to send out an endless supply of shortlinks and drivel.

Solution: Stop the mindless Tweeting and try sending out information you think your readers might enjoy even if it means promoting someone else’s book for a change.

Sin #5 The Promoter from Hell—Your Facebook page and Twitter accounts are used for one purpose—to promote. To hell with friendships, to hell with the people you stepped over to get where you are today, it’s all about promotion. Read my book. Read my blog. Buy my book. Make me rich. Wait? Where did all my followers go?

Solution: Less is more. Stick to one promotional message per day.

Sin #6 The Casino—If things blink and flash at me when I visit your site, I will gape in horror for approximately five seconds before I leave, never to return again. Sure, some readers might like the flashy, casino-like atmosphere you’ve created on your site, but others will not. Do you want to risk alienating a potential reader by driving them away with your blinking lights?

Solution: Save the laser light show for the 4thof July and stop the blinking now!

Sin #7 Redneck Rummage Sale—When I lived in Georgia, I decided to check out a few garage sales. I pulled up in front of one house, only to discover it was not the site of a yard sale, but merely a big cluttered mess. Some garage sales are better than others; some are organized by category with clearly stated prices, while others look like the homeowners simply tossed everything they owned across their lawn in hopes someone would rescue it from the rubble. I’ve seen websites that closely resemble a redneck rummage sale, with badges and gadgets strewn about the home page. There are links and pictures absolutely everywhere, and information is clustered in such a way that it would take a team of archaeologists to sift through it and make any sense of it. In today’s fast paced, busy world, there aren’t many people who will take time to pick through your virtual vomit.

Solution: Clean it up and make it visually appealing.

Sin #8 The Billboard—We’ve all seen it. Darla’s House of Romance and Fried Chicken. Or, Lizzie’s YA Fantasy and Shoe Repair. Okay, so I’m exaggerating just a tad, but
we’ve all visited author sites that display paid advertisements. Maybe you do this. I’ve checked into it—hey, anything to make some extra money so I can quit the dreaded day job. Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s your site. Do what you want. But, consider the reader and his or her perception of your website or blog. While some readers might see paid advertising as a savvy effort to capitalize on your site, others might see it as a desperate attempt to make a bit of extra money so you can afford to quit the dreaded day job. Writing is a business, so if you want your readers to view you as a cunning businessperson, that is perfectly fine. But, if you want to be viewed as a master of literary fiction and a servant to the power of the written word, you might want to forgo the paid advertisements for businesses unrelated to the craft.

Solution: Decide how you would like to be perceived and go from there. There’s no right or wrong answer here.

Sin #9 The 30-Second Website—If your website is full of misspelled words and grammatical errors, if I click on a page or link and a window pops up that says “page not found,” if your site looks like you threw it together in 30 seconds, why would I want to spend more than 30 seconds visiting it? Chances are I won’t be there that long, nor will I try to follow your broken links to discover how I can buy your book. If you don’t care about your site, neither will your potential reader.

Solution: Take a few extra minutes to proofread your content and check your links.

Sin #10 The More, The Merrier—This one goes for websites, blogs, and Facebook pages. On Facebook, do you have an author page and pages for each one of your books? Some would call this a good marketing strategy, but if you’ve ever found yourself wanting to write a new book just so you could set up yet another Facebook page, you might have a problem. What’s wrong with multiple Facebook pages? So, so much. If you’re constantly asking people to ‘like’ some new page or another, they’re going to resent you. Do you have enough content for all twelve of your pages? Or, are you going to use the same tired update for all twelve pages? If you’ve somehow managed to coerce your friends into liking all twelve pages, guess what? They’ll receive twelve updates on their newsfeed with the exact same thing! See the problem?

Now, onto websites and blogs…Okay, I’ll admit I might have a small addiction to websites. I update my site (sites) too often, changing backgrounds and headers with an alarming frequency that might leave readers wondering if they’re on the right site at all because every time they visit, it looks drastically different. Sometimes I build sites just because I can. (I’m not proud of this.) So, here’s the problem with updating your site too often: it jars the reader if they see shocking changes every time they visit. They’ll think you’re indecisive or crazy or both.

Solution: Stop.

Before everyone attacks me with a list of all my sins against social media, look at your own blog, website, Facebook page, or Twitter habits. Are you without sin? Have you struck the perfect balance between creating an author platform and creating a nuisance of yourself? I know I haven’t. It’s a work in progress. As an author, I’m a novice. But, as a READER, I’m a pro.

Categories: author platform, authors, blogging, blogs, facebook, Favorites, internet, marketing, Marketing & Promotion, sins, tricia drammeh, twitter, websites, work, writing | Tags: , , , , , | 4 Comments

The Magic of Camp

There’s something magical about camping. From setting up a tent to sleeping underneath the stars, the experience pulls you away from the day-in, day-out monotony of life and helps you realign your spirit with nature. Can you smell the roasted marshmallows? Hear the crackling of the campfire? Are you there? I am.

Virtual camp is no different, though it’s less about roasted marshmallows and more about realigning the spirit. I’ve never felt more like a writer than I do right now. Ten days ago, the idea for my Camp NaNoWriMo novel didn’t exist, but over the course of the last week and a half, I’ve watched my non-idea grow to over 16,000 words. I’ve participated in the birth of a novel several times during the past two years, but this time it’s been a deliberate act, from the moment I forced myself to write something, to a few moments ago when I realized I’m on my way.

I will admit: I’m a numbers person. I like the Camp NaNoWriMo page because I can plug in my word count and look at a graph that tells me just how far I’ve come. There are statistics – proof of my accomplishment. But a 50,000 word completed NaNo novel does not yield a finished product. So, why do I feel such a sense of completion only a third of the way into the challenge?

The answer is simple: I’ve realigned my spirit. I am in tune with my sense of self-discipline. I have become reacquainted with the motivation needed to actually complete a novel. The NaNoWriMo challenge has prompted me to write with absolute abandon. There’s no outline, no structure, no editing mid-chapter. The only  rule is this: WRITE.

The challenge has made me accountable, not only to a cabin, but to me. I’ve set a goal. I’ve made a promise, if only to myself. WRITE. Don’t look back. Don’t worry about plot holes and sentence structure because that can be fixed during revisions. Don’t think about who’s going to read it. Don’t worry about eventual publication. Write for enjoyment and fulfillment. Write because I love it. Write for me.

Just WRITE.

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Gather ’round the Campfire

As day four of Camp NaNoWriMo draws to a close, I thought I’d write a letter home.

Dear Readers,


Camp has been super fun! I was a little nervous when my YA paranormal romance somehow turned into a work of Mainstream Fiction without a vamp in sight, but I’m feeling much better now. I made some friends. And, I learned a new campfire song. So far, I’ve written over 8000 words in two days and if I work hard, I’ll have a really cool campfire story to share with everyone. It’s getting late and I’m ready to go to sleep so I can rest up for tomorrow. Something tells me it’s going to be another big day!


Your favorite camper 
XOXO


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Going Camping

That’s right, folks. June is Camp NaNoWriMo month. Don’t know what that means? NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) is traditionally in November. The goal is to write a 50,000 word novel from scratch within a one month time frame.

Which brings us to Camp NaNoWriMo… Campers all over the world gather together in one virtual campground to roast cyber marshmallows, sing campfire songs, and weave a 50,000 word campfire tale.

Haven’t signed up yet? It isn’t too late. Visit the official site to learn more about it. Reserve your cabin today!

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